IFS therapy for IVF, Infertility, & Pregnancy Loss

I wanted to create a specific space for this experience — trying to conceive, infertility, IVF or other fertility treatments, pregnancy loss, and all the uncertainty that can come with it — because it is a unique experience. And unless you’ve lived it, it’s hard to fully understand how consuming, lonely, heartbreaking, and complicated it can be. As of the time I’m writing this, I’ve been trying to conceive for about three years. During that time, I’ve gone through a failed cycle of IVF and pregnancy loss. It’s been brutal.

So many parts have come up:
Parts that want to give up.
Parts that want to keep going.
Parts that feel betrayed by my body.
Parts that desperately want answers and feel furious that there often aren’t any.

Being in relationship with my parts through IFS therapy has been essential in this process. Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without IFS as a tool. It has helped me stay connected to myself in the middle of grief, uncertainty, hope, fear, anger, and waiting.

If you’re finding yourself overwhelmed by similar parts, you don’t have to navigate this alone. Therapy can be a space to process the grief, complexity, identity shifts, relationship strain, and emotional exhaustion that often come with infertility and fertility treatment — while helping you stay connected to your Self along the way.

If this resonates, I’d be honored to support you.

Some of the things we might explore together include:

• The emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive

• IVF, IUIs, injections, procedures, and medical trauma

• Grief, pregnancy loss, or failed transfers/cycles

• Shame, anger, jealousy, numbness, or hopelessness

• Relationship stress and navigating different coping styles

• Feeling disconnected from your body or betrayed by it

• The impact infertility has on identity, sexuality, spirituality, and meaning

• Learning how to stay connected to yourself while living in uncertainty

You do not have to be “falling apart enough” to deserve support. Many people seek therapy during fertility treatment simply because carrying this experience alone is too much. I will never force positivity or tell you everything happens for a reason. This work is about helping you stay connected to yourself no matter what unfolds.

I work with clients in person + virtually in Portland, Oregon + throughout Oregon and virtually Seattle, Washington + throughout Washington state. Regardless if you decide to work with me, you deserve support regardless of where your journey leads.